I never thought I’d be getting pregnancy advice from the Pope but hey, if the shoe fits! I came across these words from the Amoris Laetitia by Pope Francis and found them to be so profound for my current life.
“With great affection I urge all future mothers: keep happy and let nothing rob you of the interior joy of motherhood. Your child deserves your happiness. Don’t let fears, worries, other people’s comments or problems lessen your joy at being God’s means of bringing a new life to the world. Prepare yourself for the birth of your child, but without obsessing. Try to experience this serene excitement amid all your many concerns, and ask the Lord to preserve your joy, so that you can pass it on to your child.”
You see, I’m currently experiencing a phenomenon that is not new to me and I’m sure not to you either. It’s when the last possible thing that you need to happen…happens. And you’re like “Really?! This?! Now?!” as you look up to the sky wondering WHY?!
The thing is…I’ve been here before, many times. The expression “when it rains, it pours” exists for a reason – because we all experience this throughout our lives. That’s just how it works. Of course an unwelcome crisis is going to happen while I’m 34 weeks pregnant and in the process of moving into a new home. Why wouldn’t it? There’s no guarantee that when one part of your life is chaotic or challenging that the other parts of your life will be smooth sailing until you say “Okay, I’m ready now.”
No, life doesn’t ask if you’re ready. So I guess the real question is; how are you going to handle it?
I can feel all the work I’ve put into personal development and off-the-mat yoga paying off because this time, I’m not letting circumstances steal my joy. This time I’m taking a deep breath. This time I have the presence of mind to recall the past, all the times that seemed hopeless, and I can clearly see how fleeting and unimportant those problems actually were in hindsight. This time I’m keeping things in perspective and living in the moment.
These next 6 weeks are the last weeks of my first pregnancy journey. This is the last time my husband and I will be “just the two of us” as we work hard to prepare our new home for our little family. It’s truly a special time and I’ll be damned if I’m going to let anything lessen that joy for me, for us. It doesn’t mean I’m going to ignore my problems, I’m going to work towards solutions like the boss lady I am! But this time in my life sure won’t be defined by anything other than what I choose!! And I choose JOY!! And sweet anticipation!! And babies!! (well, one baby) And nursery decorating!! And landscaping!! And fresh paint!! And naps, lots of naps!! 🙂
So whatever you’re dealing with, if you feel like you’re at your breaking point, I encourage you to take a step back and ask yourself if it’s really worth it. Is the situation, the person, the problem worth giving up your joy for? Rise above it. Remember that you’ve been able to handle everything in your life up until this point and this time is no different! Problems and happiness are not mutually exclusive. Life is full of conflict, struggle, confusion, hurt, and disappointment. At the exact same time it’s full of love, hope, possibilities, beauty, and joy. There’s this other expression about rain that’s really very true…
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
My niece and I at a recent baby shower